Hey Human,
Me again😀 'HAPPY NEW YEAR'. I know I'm late, I guess you will not mind 😃
I know it's been a very long time since I wrote something. I guess there was no mood to write or no mood to talk to the world😑 I was thinking a lot about one thing in particular, do we tend to please others always? or do we tend to please ourselves? or do we think that pleasing others will please us? or what we think pleases us, actually pleasing the world?
Anyways, I am that kind of a person who thought, or rather think(and trying to change💪) validation is very important in life. Becoming a good child, becoming a good person, becoming a perfect human etc., ideally who pleases society or people around. But that thing is slowly changing inside of me...,
I have seen people claiming that they don’t give a damn about this world, yet somehow their actions end up pleasing others and few really don’t give a damn and do as they please, but actually will be judging others if they do the same thing. So are people trying to validate others based on their wish and will or on their 'IDEA' of what is wrong and what is right 👀
For a few days, I have had this question in mind, do we all need validation? or do we need to validate others?
I guess the answer is simple and this answer is according to me only, I will try explaining this with an example. Nowadays I/we see many mom bloggers on social media. They put everything they do with their children, like playing with them, dressing them, feeding them, celebrating with them, making them study, making them do activities etc., and people who are watching those videos or images think they(bloggers) are perfect mothers.
But is it so? Maybe they are or maybe they aren’t. We actually don’t know.
My point is, you cannot validate anything based on a few pictures or videos on social media. I have observed a few non-blogger mothers having a feeling that they are not good mothers or people who are just normal humans think that the person(mothers/parents) whom they are seeing daily are not great mothers because they aren’t doing all those with their children. Is this the right conclusion? If you ask me, I will definitely say a big "NO".
The people who are bloggers have different kinds of support (financial/people/others) whereas, normal people whom you see in the world do not have. They will be raising their kids in their own beautiful way. So, I want to tell all those judging people not to judge and validate others just by gazing someone’s life and to those normal mothers, not worry about validating their parenting with the bloggers. Take what is required from them (Few Bloggers/Influencers are doing great job 👏giving amazing informative contents) which will make your life easy, but not try to validate yourself with them. You are the best parent to your kid and please remember that😀
I guess now you got my point with this example, and I hope you guys will definitely think twice before validating someone or validating yourself about anything. That was one tiny example of how we think that we are not better than others. Please never get that feeling, you are amazing in your own way and you do not have to prove it to anyone in this world. Be the way you are 😍
Lets not judge others for their actions because we do not know the reason behind it. Never judge yourself, you always know what you are💛
These are the few things I feel, the rest is up to you to decide how you would like to live, 'Happy and content' or always by 'validation'.
Who am I to decide, I'm just a mere common commoner.
Your's truly,
TCC
