Hey Human,
I am believing all is well with you. You might be wondering what my frequency of writing is, trust me even I am in the dark😑 However I start writing here whenever there is a topic to be discussed or a story to be told.
I came across a situation where one of my friends was telling me that, it bothers him/her so much when people judge or speak about him/her(I don’t want to reveal the gender. If I do, it will be a gender-specific issue). This thought of my friend got me thinking 🤔 "WHY DO WE BOTHER, WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT US?"
If you keenly observe your life, we do bother very much about people judging us, thinking about us, talking about us. Sometimes it will be our imagination rather than the reality. In reality, people won't even be bothered about our actions but still we "ACT" thinking we will be judged.
Is this really necessary? Do we have to behave for others? where is our self-consciousness? will we be good, only if someone is watching us? why do we tend to think and waste time on what others might think about this particular action of ours?
Well, these are all the questions I have and the answer to these questions might vary from person to person. I very well agree that we live in an organized society and it is expected of us to behave in a certain way. But sometimes we overthink in a certain way and end up hurting ourselves by behaving in a way we don't intend. This action according to me is unnecessary. There is a self-conscious existing in all of us, we don’t have to behave always worrying about others (sometimes the "others" referred to here don't even exist in our reality or they don't give a damn about what we are doing). I guess it's high time we act according to our consciousness and stop hurting ourselves. There are ways to overcome these, if you think too much about dear ones getting hurt by your actions then first discuss with them and explain your need to take that particular decision, if they really care about you then they will understand/support, and if they have any other opinion about it they will tell you and a healthy discussion will always help you make wise decisions. Talking or sharing your thoughts is very important, we all are humans and we are blessed with this beautiful skill called "Communication" please utilize it and STOP BOTHERING ABOUT OTHERS. Always remember OTHERS are just your imagination, they exist if you want them to exist. Choose your thoughts wisely. What you think will be created, be careful with your thinking.
Prioritize yourself first, rest you anyhow can manage. Don't cloud your judgments based on OTHERS' THOUGHTS. Make your own life, if you really are concerned about particular people thinking then please talk and resolve. Just start practicing this and see the MAGIC.
I am sure if you stop bothering about what others might think, your thinking capability will be put to proper use and your own productivity will increase. I can only tell, the decision is all yours.
After all who am I to tell? I am just a mere common commoner.
Yours truly,
TCC
