My Naked Feelings!!!

 

Hey Human,

Longtime right?

I have been busy. So busy that I don't even remember what I did in my most busiest time.

I know hardly people read this blog and my feelings can be naked here. 

No one bothers what is written here. Right? who cares ?

 I am not blaming anyone, everybody has their life so I understand completely.

I feel this is my safe place to pen down every damn thing I feel.

Anyhow, I am writing here because lately I am feeling too many complicated feelings. They are so complicated that I feel like I am chained by them. 

Sometimes I think it's all in my head and my overthinking is making things complicated.

Is it real? are my feelings just an illusion? or I am just feeling the way I am feeling because I want to feel that way. 

Am I imposing feelings on my heart and head to get hurt. Maybe I am looking for an inspiration.

Back in the days I used to like only those things/people which/whom I was sure that I wont get them. That depressed feeling made me write many things and after writing I felt an unknown happiness and it was so addictive I loved that addiction. 

I am sure even you have addictions. Addicted to being happy, being loved, being praised, being admired really exists. And to some point they are good. But as the saying goes too much of anything whether it is good, bad, love, hate etc is always not good. Everything should have certain limit.

If I think in a way, yes that is true. But is it? when do we know that limit? after loosing it all or after gaining it all? or not knowing about it all?

I am confused. 

Ok, now coming back to my feelings, may be I am doing the same again. 

I have been born this way. 

I wanted to explore the world in my own way and somewhere living a normal life (society expected life) I am lost. 

I feel like so many things were taken away from me and I will never be able to do them. Especially mistakes. Yes! you read it right. I wanted to make mistakes and learn from them, I wanted to feel how it felt when you did certain things at certain age or with certain mindset. May be for others it's a mistake and may be for some it's not.

There is no right or wrong in this world. We made certain rules and we decided what to follow and what not to follow. I guess we as humans did what we call now as rules of the society just to have some controls.

We were uncontrollable. Yes, this might be the only valid reason I can think of.

Just imagine a world where we had control over ourselves and did everything whatever we loved. What if we loved each other and had only empathy for each other. I am sure that the world would have been a better place.

I guess only LOVE would have existed in that world. We all would have had a ZERO complicated life. 

Individual soul's happiness would have been the priority. 

I have written enough for today. I will write again soon.

Those who have read this think. Anyhow who am I to tell. 

I am just a mere common commoner.

Yours truly,

TCC

 

Who is your Favourite? You? or YOU?

Hey Human,

Here I am again writing something which I thought might tickle your brain a bit.

We all have favorites right? favourite animal, favourite person, favourite thing, favourite emotion, etc etc etc., I think this happens automatically. We tend to like something/someone a tad more than other people or other things. And also we want to become everyone's favorite. common who doesn't want to be liked by others, we all do! I do! you do! and it's not new or bad. As a child we want to become our parents pet and relatives favorite , then when we grow up a bit we want our teachers to like us, then become popular among friends, after landing up a job try becoming boss's favorite etc etc. Ultimately, we constantly keep trying. This is the case of majority of people. And in that majority I too have a share. 

I always wanted to be everyone's favorite. I became "THE FAVORITE"  or I thought I did. I am still figuring that one out. In my life, this has been the reason for my sadness many a times. When I became their favorite I have only tried to please them when I literally did not want to do few things. When people did not like me, I have tried to bribe them with gifts, trust me that has worked but it was not permanent. It lasted only till the excitement of the given gift lasted. I tried talking to them nicely when they weren't even interested in talking to me. It was the constant urge inside making me do all these things. The goal was constant "I WANT THEM TO LIKE ME".

Finally I learned my lesson the hard way. Yes! the 'R' word "REJECTION", after all I had to face it. I cannot be liked by everybody forget becoming their favorite. Few people don't like few people. PERIOD. We have to understand that and of course respect that. They all have their own reasons. But don't hate people too much which will turn toxic for you, not for them. You will become this negative, horrible, toxic person and from there you will have no turning back.

Even we don't like everyone right? so think that you are on the other side when other people don't like you. 

"NO EXPECTATION = NO SADNESS. AGREE REJECTION  AND LEARN ACCEPTANCE"

It's quite simple actually. The above formula is not only for this topic, in general that is what we have to follow. For example few people read this piece few won't and I cannot make anybody do anything right? Few might like this few won't. Again I don't have any role there either. So leave it. Just 'LEAVE IT'.....

"FEELINGS ARE CREATED NOT BAKED"

As always I talk(write) and talk(write) and talk(write) but you are the one who is reading this, understanding this and deciding what to do after reading this. Who am I to tell, I'm just a mere common commoner.

Yours truly,

TCC

Is success real?

Hey Human,

Me again. It's been very very long time. We decided not to apologize anymore right?

 Ok then let me begin.

Have you ever wondered what is success? What 'being successful' mean?

Each person perceives it differently right?!

For some, its small accomplishments but for few its a huge achievement. We often say 'we know the taste of success and its addictive'. Success comes in different ways to different people. I think every individual has at least once experienced having success in their life. 

Success is something which brings us 'JOY', 'HAPPINESS', 'CONTENTNESS'. Sometimes we overpower the word by attaching it with many unrelated and unbearable goals. Finally we make success an unachievable thing in life. We often take the word too seriously. 

Life is full of uncertainty, if we don't start living by having achievable success we feel like we are useless, unproductive, worthless leading a meaningless life. So lets start having small small goals in life small and lets celebrated their successes after achieving them. 

For example my goal for today was to write this piece and publish it. 

And see yayy!! I have done it 😀 

Success is not only 'Climbing the tip of mount Everest'. It starts when you start making your mind for climbing. There are numerous small goals which leads to achieve the last goal and you call it a success. We often see the last part and call only that a success by forgetting the journey taken to achieve the last step. Success is measurable when you do it step by step. Reaching the tip of mount Everest is of course a great success but there are numerous small goals which were achieved before reaching the tip. 

Every step taken towards reaching the tip(your final goal) is achieving success. So never underestimate completion of your baby steps towards your final goal. Never feel like 'I have done only this much 😓 and there is lot to achieve'. By doing this you are losing small happiness in your life and expecting you will be happy when you only reach the final goal. Start celebrating your small goals you never know how much you live but live with contentment and smile in your face. 

Lets start with these simple steps. Getting up early, cooking dinner, working out, talking to a friend after a long time, going on a date, dressing up, smiling, helping someone, visiting your loved ones, going on a trip, fishing, camping, hiking, writing a poem/story, etc., If these are your small goals and you start achieving them, you feel that success follows you everywhere and you will never burden yourself. You will be more motivated to reach towards your final goal instead of thinking 'I am not going to achieve that or become that'.

Once you know how to achieve the smaller goals and how the success(tiny ones) feels, you will challenge yourself with new goals, bigger and greater ones. I am damn sure you will achieve those easily without tiring your physical, mental and emotional self. 

SUCCESS will then become your habit not an impossible dream.

You can do if you believe in yourself and just remember the person you envy to become someday is also a 'HUMAN' just like you and me 😀 

Nothing is impossible if you believe in yourself. 

Success is just a fancy word, if you are happy you are successful. 

It's up to you, how you wanna define 'SUCCESS', who am I to tell. I'm just a mere common commoner.

Yours truly,

TCC

Celebrity! Are you one?

Hey human,

 

I wanted to talk about this topic from very long time. I always thought that someone should tell it. I don't know if it will be heard but I believe in some way this article can change one's mindset. If this change one single person's perspective then I I'm thankful for the universe for making me write it.

 

So today let's talk about celebrities. I guess you all have your favorite ones but few don't like them few of them are ready to give their life for them. I always find it surprising how can one person love another who's not even related to them in any way, how one person can just see another person and love them for their talent.

 

I appreciate the talent but I doubt I can give my life for that person. I am not against any fan following but I'm against those who troll people and hurt their feelings. I appreciate humor when it doesn't hurt anybody's feelings. When you think of humor it is supposed to make you laugh not make you cry or feel sad. I feel celebrities pay huge price mentally and emotionally when they're being trolled. After all they are humans with feelings. Some people(trollers) just don't understand how the other person is feeling when they say such horrible things. Few people who comment on celebrities post without sense I often wonder whether they want someone to recognize them or is that what they really think.

 

We think that hurting someone can only be physical but it's wrong. When you say horrible things to a person that's worse than physical abuse. Your one word will be like a thorn pricking their heart for what it feels like eternity. When we judge celebrities about their clothes, choice of religion, choice of partner, choice of work etc we often forget that they are humans too. How we are working for our family, for our dreams same way they are doing their job. We invest lot of time thinking about them even though there is no fruitful outcome out of it. We call them horrible people when they endorse a brand related to beverages, tobacco etcetera but some of us are working for those companies which manufacture them. Celebrities don't troll us or judge us.

We often tell them as social figures who inspire our children but in reality don't you think children are most inspired by those who are around them every day?

 

Just allow them to do their job and you do yours. You don't like something then, don't do it/take it/use it why are you bothered that some celebrity is marketing it. You do your stuff, don't care what others are doing. You love your celebrity figure for their talent not how they're leading their life. It's there wish how they wish to live it's not your damn job to comment on that. You become your child's hero and don't expect any celebrity or any character played by the celebrity to be one.

 

So let's stick to the basic and become humans, respect humans, appreciate humans and support humans. I guess we can create a better future for our younger generation by just being humans.

Anyhow all these are my thoughts I don't know what do you think so after all I can only tell, leading a human life is your call. After all who am I to tell. 

I'm just a common commoner.

Your's truly,

TCC

How about living a teen's life???

Hey Human,

Today I am gonna write about my teenage days. You all remember how you were when you were from thirteen to eighteen right? High harmones, high energy, high enthusiasm, high dreams, feeling high on emotions, high expectations, high on every damn thing. Always always trying or wanting new, sometimes something scary new, having the feeling that CAN DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Well in my case I was always high on emotions. There were times I was so confident about my looks, my talent, my body, my brain, my people (I always thought they all love me like I am their best- friend/cousin/child/student etc.) everything and then there was the time, when I doubted on everything.

 I felt so bad I cant even imagine that "feeling" now. It was so painful, that much I can tell. 

I felt no love, no kindness, no nothing. It was always very very sad. I used to hear all sad songs and not only hear them, I felt them. Each letter in the lyrics. I used to worry all the time that I will never be loved. I was living in a shell of sadness. 

 "No one likes me", "no one adores me", "no one admires me", "no one loves me", "I am not good looking", "all others have people who adore them", "others are so good at everything" etc etc etc.,

It took me few years to overcome entirely but I did overcome. 

Now whenever I think of that phase, I feel I wasted my energies on things which didn't even matter. 

But trust me those were burning issues to me when I was a teenager or when I was under 21.

I know we all have been there, we all share own past which we are not very proud of. 

Everyone of us, no matter how famous you were, we all  had our own set of insecurities. But we all surpassed those. We lived those fears and overcame many of them. I know it's a slow process to overcome few fears but that doesn't make us weak. If we were weak we wouldn't be here now. Not that I am telling anything bad but like I wouldn't be writing and you wouldn't be reading this and feeling that 'yes, once I was too', 'once I had too'....

So the bottom line is we all can overcome anything. We just have to live that particular day and trust me next day will be better. Again follow the same process "JUST LIVE THE DAMN DAY" and keep repeating 'this too shall pass and new sun will rise'. 

Sometimes I have lived 'the hour', 'the minute'. After that particular hour or particular minute that particular pain reduced. I am not lying I have done that and still do it sometimes. Living that particular minute or hour or day will be extremely difficult but we all have to do it. 

It's like you walk under raging hot sun and then run to find a place with shade. We all do it in our daily hustle. While going for shopping, or walking to work or just walking sometimes on the road. Same thing we have to do for our emotions, take that raging sun's extreme hotness for some moment and then rest in shade feeling the hotness go off of our head.

I also agree that, those years are just golden. Because our energy was just outstanding then. Some of you who are reading this are living those years and some of you, like me, have passed those years. Those who are living, please keep the energy and no matter what your insecurities are. Just remember you will survive. Trust me on this. Those who have already passed, please bring back that positive energy, at least some of it so that you can make the present more energetic.

Whenever I feel low now I tap that energy and feel like I want to do it, I want to conquer the world.

You never know when you tap into yours you might be surprised. You might find "MAGIC".

No matter what I tell or write its all "YOU" who can make 'YOU', lift 'YOU', 'create 'YOU'. 

Remember that "MAGIC IS NOTHING BUT YOU". 

It's up to you to tap on your inner energy and know yourself more. Who am I to tell I'm just a mere common commoner.

Your's truly,

TCC

No love is selfless!!!!

 

Hey human,

Hope you all are doing well. 

There was this lady in my neighborhood who was always asking for respect from their family members. Asking? you might wonder. Yes she was literally asking, she used to tell or shout at her family members that they are not giving her enough respect. 

I happen to know the family and one of the family members told me that, they give her enough respect but she thinks she deserves more. She thinks she should be treated like a queen for the things she has done for her family. And the family thinks, what she has done is not an extraordinary thing and it was her responsibility to do. The family members feel that she is expecting too much. For all the silly things she wants to get involved and she is not allowing others to take any decisions without going through her.

The lady claims that since she has done so many sacrifices for the family without prioritizing  herself . She often feels, she has done those sacrifices like no other in the world and she should be respected and treated like a queen.

I was torn between two parties and I felt sorry for the lady at the same time was unhappy that why is she asking for a validation or expecting all those when she has done things many have done and have been doing in life. It was not an extraordinary sacrifice but as we all know sacrifice is a sacrifice. 

I am still torn to tell who is right and who is wrong in this scenario. This is applicable in all relationships. everyone expects and I don't think that can be avoided but according to me yes, it can be controlled. My mind is filled with questions now,

 Expecting is correct or is it too much of an expectation in this case?

 How much respect should be given to a person?

 How to quantify the feelings (gratitude, love, selflessness etc.,)? 

How can one show gratitude to the person who has sacrificed something for them? 

How to determine what is too much and what is not and when to stop asking for something?

what is the tolerance level of a person (asking end or giving end)?

 How much one can keep asking or cribbing on the same thing?

How much one can blame others for the decisions they have taken in their life?

How much one can expect? How much one can love? Is love always conditional?

Can love be completely unconditional? 

or as Joey says in 'Friends' series "no love is selfless".

Have you come across these people in your life? or are YOU these people? 

When comes to love, sacrifice and life its always complicated isn't it?

After all, who am I to tell, I'm just a mere common commoner.

yours truly,

TCC

Shhhhhhhh..... it's a SECRET!!!

 Hey Human,

Its been really very very long since I wrote something here. I won't apologize and do the same thing again. So lets establish whenever I can I will put my thoughts here 😊.  Hope you all are doing good in life. 

Yesterday night I got up suddenly and didn't sleep for a while. I don't know the reason and I was thinking many random things but something about secrets kept me awake for some more time. You all know that, we have secrets in life, few secrets will forever die with us and few we tell to others and it wont be our secret anymore. 

There was this one time when I was talking with my friend and I asked him 'I will tell you a secret, but promise me that you will never tell anyone'. He smilingly answered 'if you are telling me then its not a secret anymore, is it?'. I was like ' why? I'm telling you alone and it will be secret between us'. He said 'once its out of you then it's not a secret. However I assure you I won't tell anyone'. Then I told him the secret and later we discussed on that topic. 

You people might be thinking why am I telling you this instead of telling you the secret, it's because the thing which he told me about secret not being a secret, suddenly kept me awake for sometime yesterday. I was thinking about secrets which we sometimes are very proud of. The more secretive we look or portray or the more mysterious we manage to project ourselves the more open we are sometimes to few people. I am not saying that we should be an open book always but just for the sake of it don't project it. Few are genuinely private I have huge respect for them. They mind their own business rather than fake it. 

Coming back to secrets, I have many which I haven't shared it with anyone but only with my my mind and soul. I have told few secrets to people whom I am close with and that has made my heart light, it's like I have shared half of my burden. Are those shared secrets are still safe with them? I would like to believe 'YES' if not, if at all people have shared it with someone they are very close with, then I don't know. As my friend told it's not a secret anymore. Sometimes I feel, may be we want our secrets to be known. I don't know what to say👀. How about your secrets? Are they safe? Do you also share it with your loved ones? 

 I am just blabbering things aren't I?. After all, who am I to tell, I'm just a mere common commoner.

yours truly,

TCC